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Let's Give Up The Guilt!

13-May-09 07:44 | Savannah Mayfield, LMT, CEC
Mamapreneurs, we are all juggling so much! We care for our families, we run our businesses, we keep our households going and we try to make time for ourselves. Most Mamapreneurs I know are who are successful are driven by passion for their work.  They love what they do! They also care deeply about being great moms and being with their families.

I believe that we are a new breed of working mamas. In the 1950s most of our grandmothers stayed home and cared for their children and households. In the 1980s many mamas changed from a family focus toward career, feeling empowered and liberated by the new cultural permission to succeed.

But the Modern Mamapreneur wants to thrive both at work and at home. She wants to do it all! And often, we do.  But, we are also our own biggest critics. One of the biggest internal challenges for working mamas is guilt.

Our guilt comes in many forms. We feel like we are failing as mamas when we don’t always give our kids the focused attention they need. We have periods when we feel that we just can’t keep up with the demands of our businesses. Some weeks the house is a wreck and we can’t seem to dial the phone and call a housecleaning service because we think we should be able to do everything ourselves.

These are symptoms of a busy mama who is working hard.  Guilt doesn’t make you a better mama nor does it help you succeed in your business. It keeps you stuck in self-judgment and stifles your intuition.

Instead of letting guilt hold you back, be proactive and listen to your instincts to make positive changes. Be willing to view your challenges through compassionate eyes and seek support (delegate!). Instead of getting stuck in the cycle of guilt, get creative and see the challenges in your busy life as opportunities to redefine your priorities and grow in your chosen direction.

Who is with me?

Comments

  • 13-May-09 14:21 | Laurie/Mobile Mommy
    I'm with you! I try not to let guilt hold me back and realize that really doing it all is great - if you realize it's okay you don't have to be perfect at doing it all, all the time!!
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  • 13-May-09 14:41 | marlynn
    guilt? what's that? lol - you know i'm with ya on this, sistah! :)
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  • 13-May-09 19:20 | UrbanHippieMama
    I'm with you!! Thank you for this wonderful reminder, Savannah.
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  • 14-May-09 00:20 | anonymous
    i really like that you said guilt 'stifles your intuition'. that feels so true! i also love the suggestion to 'listen to your instincts to make positive changes'. so many times i know exactly what i need but feel too overwhelmed or judgmental of my instincts to act on them. i am going to practice listening to what my instincts are telling me and not the guilt...
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  • 15-May-09 14:46 | Marne Maykowskyj Nordean
    i spend so much time feeling guilty, i swear i don't get half as much done as i could. I'm working feverishly on being present with my kids and present with my work - no more half of my brain thinking about what i SHOULD be doing....!
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    • 19-May-09 14:24 | Savannah
      A client told me recently that her new mantra is: "Whatever I am doing right now IS what I SHOULD be doing!" How wise is that?!
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